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The Science Of Birth Order

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By Helen Burns

The Science of Birth Order! It has been the topic of controversy between psychologists over the last century.

Theory of Birth Order

While a school of researchers strictly maintain that there is a definite relation between how a child will grow up and his order of birth within the family, others still argue that there is no concrete relation to support this and these claims are merely a way of fitting our personal observations and perceptions into a definite scientific model. Mostly, both of these theories are equally likely as there is no definite evidence to support either.

Firstborn and Youngest Child

History shows that most of the Nobel Laureates and scholarship winners are firstborn. As has been suggested, this is primarily because of the higher IQs and pronounced genetic and psychological causes. Researchers argue that any firstborn will have a kind of status quo for leadership.

They are usually accustomed to taking charges and leading a situation head-on, primarily because the eldest in any family usually has to pave the way for their younger siblings. Contrast this with the youngest in any family. It has been hypothesized that younger brothers usually are the spoilt ones usually because they are always pampered by everyone in their family and they never let go of being the “baby” in the family.

Being always waited on usually changes the social interactions one has with society. But the biggest brunt is usually felt by the middle sibling. This is primarily because they tend to be looked on as having to perform at least as much as their elder peer and yet they observe their younger siblings get preferential treatment all the time. This puts a kind of pressure from both sides.

Dethronement

Alfred Adler, Austrian psychiatrist, well known within the field of child psychology, coined the theory of dethronement. This theory basically looks at the psychological effects of child order and how firstborn and second-born children fall into the family system.  Adler believed that birth order had a considerable effect on a child’s personality and mental state.

The firstborn has all his or her parents’ attention and energies channelled solely towards them. They are the pivot of their parents’ love. Once the second child is born, the first child is suddenly displaced and becomes subordinate to the newborn sibling; parents now divert their attention towards the second child and the firstborn experiences “dethronement”.

Middle Child

If a third child is born, it is the middle child who loses out from his or her parents’ affections the most. The second-born does not experience dethronement. The youngest child automatically gets pigeonholed as “the youngest” and thus, gets particular interest from the parents. Often the youngest children are considered to be doted upon to the point of being spoilt or excessively pampered. The eldest child is always encouraged to supervise and take care of their younger siblings.

Which Sibling is the Most Responsible Due to Birth Order?

The sense of responsibility, although sometimes excessive, as well as a sense of superiority may lead to neurosis with a higher tendency for the eldest child to abuse substances. The middle child is the one that loses out most as they are neither “here nor there” this does, however, instigate an urge to develop and be successful, although their subordinate role in the family leads them to be rebellious children.

Genetics: Does it play a role?

Studies have established links between birth order, intelligence and personality. Firstborn children will be glad to hear that a study carried out in Norway showed that firstborn babies have a higher IQ than their siblings this is, however, probably not due to genetics but rather to the role older siblings play in the family unit and vis-à-vis their brothers and sisters.  Scientists have found few links between genetics and birth order and genetic testing has proved inconclusive. Studies are still far from being fully developed and require further research for full scientific validation.

Personality and Intelligence and Birth Order

Rather than using genetics to explain personality and intelligence, scientists have taken a more pragmatic approach. For example, the more children one has, the lower the chances one has of being firstborn.

Someone born in a two children family has a 50% chance of being firstborn but this probability falls the mother children a family has. Furthermore, financial resources might be limited and diminish as more children are born into a family. The firstborn might benefit more from resources than the fifth child for example as resources may have dwindled considerably by the time the last child is born.

Darwin’s theory and Birth Order

It has been hypothesized that Darwin’s theory of Evolution with respect to the survival of the fittest is highly applicable in any familial setting. Parents are usually not able to distribute their love equally to all their children. As a result, most children have to develop strategies to take any unoccupied niche of attention. Although this provides a kind of competitive atmosphere, weak-willed children often buckle at the pressure.

Stereotypical models of families have shown that elder brothers are usually motivated and authoritative, middle ones are constantly compared to their siblings and indirectly belittled by the comparison and youngest siblings are usually dreamers.

Examples to support this fact include Lincoln who was the eldest child and the revolutionary, Marx who was the youngest in their respective families, among numerous others. However, it has also been argued that we have no real way of corroborating this fact primarily because we do not have sufficient data to corroborate these claims. We merely fit our findings into a convenient pattern which we formulate to suit our needs.

What recent studies show about birth order

But recent studies have shown that the eldest child in any family usually has a 1 to 3 point higher IQ than their immediate sibling, while the difference is around 1 point between the 2nd and the 3rd. The difference gets inconclusive after that point. I

t has been theorized that this is mainly because the eldest child in any family usually has the highest amount of interaction with their parents in childhood. Being in the constant company of elders helps them to build sound foundations and receive a lot of intellectual stimuli.

Not only that, they usually have to look after their younger siblings, thus helping them develop a sense of authority and responsibility. The middle one, on the other hand, has to handle interactions from both sides; they are usually good team players and can view the world from others’ perspectives.

Traits like openness to radical ideas and high social interactions, on the other hand, are attributed to the youngest of siblings. Nevertheless, these traits become of less significance if the gaps between their birth years are more than five, as psychologists have pointed out.

This is mainly because parents then divert most of their attention to successive children. These children are usually known as “pseudo firstborn” because they tend to receive almost as much attention from their adult peers as had their elder brother or sister.

Most of this data, however, breaks down when the children chosen for the study are taken from different families. This is mainly because genetic traits usually dominate the psychological ones when the sample space is from different contexts. So no matter whether a relation between birth order and personality exists or not, the main factor, at the end of the day is always dependant on the experiences a child gains while growing up.

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Strike Up The Band! Music Means More Than Fun!

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by Christina Lorenzen

The Love of Music

We may not all love the ballet, opera or an afternoon at a museum, but you would be hard-pressed to find someone who doesn’t like music. With so many kinds to choose from, from classical to hip hop to classic rock, there’s something for every taste. It’s long been said that “music soothes the savage beast” and many of us find ourselves soothed by our car radios on the way home from a long day of work. Music not only has the power to relax or energize us, it also has been shown to make children smarter.

Early Childhood

Early childhood specialists have conducted tests and concluded that preschoolers who received music lessons for several months showed specific advantages over their playmates who did not. Tests showed these children had improved dramatically in their abilities to color patterns of color, draw geometric figures and figure out mazes. These skills reflect spatial intelligence which is the foundation for complex types of reasoning needed in math and science.

BENEFITS of Music for very young children/preschoolers:

1. Promotes large and small motor skills development.
2. Cultivates concentration and focused listening.
3. Fosters early vocal development and enhanced social abilities.
4. Encourages parent/child bonding

It’s been proven that music stimulates all areas of a child’s developing brain.

Early musical exposure has been linked to superior motor abilities. It has even been shown to affect social abilities positively. Hands-on participation in music, especially during the brain’s crucial developing years of ages 3-10, is especially valuable. During the ages of 3-10, the areas of the brain responsible for higher thinking abilities are developing. What does all this really mean? Simply put, music is a healthy and natural opportunity for your child to express him/herself while promoting the positive development of the whole child – socially, physically and emotionally.

Dwindling School Programs

Unfortunately, with school funding dwindling each year, many schools have small music programs with limited room for children to participate. Many schools have cut their music programs altogether, taking away more than just the fun of playing from their students. If your child’s school does not offer a music program, check with a local music store/school and reap these rewards from your investment:

BENEFITS of Music for older, school-age children:

1. aids academic aptitudes in mathematics, science and the arts.
2. increases scholastic participation.
3. teaches the value of achieving goals
4. bolsters self-image and self-assurance.
5. inspires self-sufficiency and appreciation for teamwork.
 

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Child Development: Preschoolers Ages and Stages

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Child Development Guide for Preschoolers

Children develop at their own pace, so it’s impossible to tell exactly when yours will learn a given skill. The developmental milestones below will give you a general idea of the changes you can expect as your child gets older, but don’t be alarmed if your child does not exactly follow the steps as outlined.

Child development by end of 36 months

Social

  • Imitates adults and playmates
  • Spontaneously shows affection for familiar playmates
  • Can take turns in games
  • Understands concept of “mine” and “his/hers”

Emotional

  • Shows affection openly
  • Shows a wide range of emotions
  • By 3, separates easily from parents
  • Objects to major changes in routine

Cognitive

  • Makes mechanical toys work
  • Matches an object in her hand or room to a picture in a book
  • Plays make-believe with dolls, animals, and people
  • Sorts objects by shape and color
  • Completes puzzles with three or four pieces
  • Understands concept of “two”

Language

  • Follows a two- or three-part command
  • Recognizes and identifies almost all common objects and pictures
  • Understands most sentences
  • Understands placement in space (“on,” “in,” “under”)
  • Uses 4- to 5-word sentences
  • Can say name, age, and sex
  • Uses pronouns (I, you, me, we, they) and some plurals (cars, dogs, cats)
  • Strangers can understand most of her words

Movement

  • Climbs well
  • Walks up and down stairs, alternating feet (one foot per stair step)
  • Kicks ball
  • Runs easily
  • Pedals tricycle
  • Bends over easily without falling

Hand and Finger Skills

  • Makes up-and-down, side-to-side, and circular lines with pencil or crayon
  • Turns book pages one at a time
  • Builds a tower of more than six blocks
  • Holds a pencil in writing position
  • Screws and unscrews jar lids, nuts, and bolts
  • Turns rotating handles

Developmental Health Watch
Alert your child’s doctor or nurse if your child displays any
of the following signs of possible developmental delay for
this age range.

Frequent falling and difficulty with stairs

Persistent drooling or very unclear speech

Cannot build a tower of more than four blocks

Difficulty manipulating small objects

Cannot copy a circle by age 3

Cannot communicate in short phrases

No involvement in “pretend” play

Does not understand simple instructions

Little interest in other children

Extreme difficulty separating from mother or primary caregiver

Poor eye contact

Limited interest in toys

By the end of 4 years (48 months)

Social

  • Interested in new experiences
  • Cooperates with other children
  • Plays “Mom” or “Dad”
  • Increasingly inventive in fantasy play
  • Dresses and undresses
  • Negotiates solutions to conflicts
  • More independent

Emotional

  • Imagines that many unfamiliar images may be “monsters”
  • Views self as a whole person involving body, mind, and feelings
  • Often cannot tell the difference between fantasy and reality

Cognitive

  • Correctly names some colors
  • Understands the concept of counting and may know a few numbers
  • Tries to solve problems from a single point of view
  • Begins to have a clearer sense of time
  • Follows three-part commands
  • Recalls parts of a story
  • Understands the concepts of “same” and “different”
  • Engages in fantasy play

Language

  • Has mastered some basic rules of grammar
  • Speaks in sentences of five to six words
  • Speaks clearly enough for strangers to understand
  • Tells stories

Movement

  • Hops and stands on one foot up to five seconds
  • Goes upstairs and downstairs without support
  • Kicks ball forward
  • Throws ball overhand
  • Catches bounced ball most of the time
  • Moves forward and backward with agility

Hand and Finger Skills

  • Copies square shapes
  • Draws a person with two to four body parts
  • Uses scissors
  • Draws circles and squares
  • Begins to copy some capital letters

Developmental Health Watch
Alert your child’s doctor or nurse if your child displays any
of the following signs of possible developmental delay for
this age range.

  • Cannot throw a ball overhand
  • Cannot jump in place
  • Cannot ride a tricycle
  • Cannot grasp a crayon between thumb and fingers
  • Has difficulty scribbling
  • Cannot stack four blocks
  • Still clings or cries whenever parents leave
  • Shows no interest in interactive games
  • Ignores other children
  • Doesn’t respond to people outside the family
  • Doesn’t engage in fantasy play
  • Resists dressing, sleeping, using the toilet
  • Lashes out without any self-control when angry or upset
  • Cannot copy a circle
  • Doesn’t use sentences of more than three words
  • Doesn’t use “me” and “you” correctly
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How much should a 1-2 years-old eat?

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By Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers

Parents often wonder how much food should their little ones (1-2 years old) be eating.

Recent media coverage suggests over the past 20 years, restaurants and food companies have been increasing their serving sizes. This trend is considered to be a contributing factor in the rise in obesity (among adults and children).
We all know that children should eat less than adults. After all, they are smaller. The following are some serving size guidelines for a 1-2 year old that may help you out.

Milk/Dairy: Servings:

16-20 ounces of milk per day. Whole milk, soy or rice milk are recommended. Other equivalents: 1/2 -3/4 ounce of cheese = 4 ounces of milk. 1/4 cup of yogurt = 2 ounces of milk.

Fruits and veggies:

Servings: 5 or more per day. Serving size: 1-2 tablespoons – Pureed, mashed, or cubed.

Grains: Servings:

3-4 per day. Serving sizes: 1/2 slice of bread, 1/4 cup of cooked cereal, 1/4 cup of dry cereal. 1/4 cup of pasta, 2-3 saltine crackers, or 1/2 tortilla.

Non-dairy proteins (meat, fish, beans, eggs): Servings:

2 per day. Serving sizes: 1/2 egg, 2-3 tablespoons beans (i.e. black, pinto, edamame, etc…), 1 tablespoon peanut butter, or 1 ounce of fish, lean beef, pork or chicken.

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Healthy Toddler Treat: Creamy Cranberry Dipping Sauce

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By Cheryl Tallman and Joan Ahlers

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Toddlers love to play with their food. Dipping sauces make foods taste good and provide your child with an activity that makes meals and snacks more fun. These two recipes are for children one-yer old or older. Enjoy these yummy dipping sauces – one for fruits and another for veggies, tofu, and meats.

What age to introduce cranberries to baby?

Over 12 months (cooked/juice/sauce).

Over 18 months (dried).

Creamy Cranberry Dipping Sauce

Healthy Toddler Treat: Creamy Cranberry Dipping Sauce

Recipe by Sugar Bee BabyCourse: Ages and Stages
Servings

4

servings
Prep time

5

minutes
Cooking timeminutes
Calories

40

kcal

Ingredients

  • 3/4 cup 100 percent cranberry raspberry (or grape) juice

  • 1/2 cup sour cream

  • 1/2 cup vanilla yogurt

Directions

  • Combine ingredients in a small mixing bowl, whisking until smooth.
  • Serve hot or at room temperature.
  • Perfect for dipping fruits and veggies

All about cranberries

The cranberry is a Native American fruit that grows on trailing vines like a strawberry, and thrives in wetland areas, called bogs. Cranberries are harvested in September and October.

The most common technique for harvesting is known as a “wet” harvest, which involves flooding the bogs with water to float the fruit for easy collection. In the winter the frozen water insulates and protects the vines.

The North American cranberry has a distinguished history. Native Americans used cranberries as food, in ceremonies, and medicinally.

Revolutionary War veteran Henry Hall planted the first commercial cranberry beds in Dennis, Massachusetts in 1816. Today they are farmed on approximately 40,000 acres across the northern United States and Canada.
Cranberries are available in a variety of product forms including fresh, juice, dried, and sauce.

Cranberries are a healthy fruit.

They contain no cholesterol and virtually no fat and are low in sodium and contain significant amounts of antioxidants and other phytonutrients. They may help protect against heart disease, cancer, aging, and other diseases. Cranberries contain bacteria-blocking compounds that are helpful in preventing urinary tract infections, and possibly ulcers and gum disease.

Cranberries for the family

Cranberry up your Thanksgiving meal by trying some of these tasty and simple ideas.


1. Football snack: Add dried cranberries to any nut mixture.

2. Salad: Sprinkle dried cranberries on mixed green or spinach salad. The sweetness of the cranberries is terrific with any vinaigrette dressing and is a great compliment to crumbled blue cheese or goat cheese.

3. Side dish: Add dried cranberries to your favorite stuffing, wild rice, or couscous recipe.

4. Veggie: Sauté onions, diced zucchini, and dried cranberries in olive oil. Season with a dash of turmeric, cinnamon, and rep pepper flakes. Great taste and awesome color!

5. Most important cranberries are yummy toddler food!

5. All American apple pie: Add ½frac12; cups of fresh cranberries to your favorite apple recipe.

6. Treat the whole family to fresh cranberry sauce. Make this simple recipe that can be made ahead of time.

Cranberry Mustard Dipping Sauce

Details

Servings
Prep time

3 minutes

Cooking time

0 minutes

Calories

30

Ingredients

  • 1/2 cup jellied cranberry sauce

  • 1 1/2 tablespoons grainy Dijon mustard

  • 1 tablespoon brown sugar

Directions

  • Combine ingredients in a small mixing bowl, whisking until smooth.
  • Serve hot or at room temperature.
  • Serve with raw/blanched veggies, baked tofu, chicken fingers or fish sticks.
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Top 12 questions to ask a childcare center

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Finding a childcare center for your son or daughter is one of the biggest decisions you’ll make as a parent. Most importantly, you want your child to feel safe and secure in a stimulating environment that allows him or her to grow and learn.

It is easy to get information about a daycare’s curriculum and credentials online. But a visit to experience it firsthand is the only way to really know if it’s a good fit for you and your child.

Whether you are seeking care for your infant, toddler, or preschooler, the first step is to find a reputable and qualified childcare center.

Prepare some questions to ask yourself during the visit. That way, it will be easier to remember what is important to you as the childcare provider walks you through the facility. Here is a checklist of 12 questions to help you assess if a childcare center is the right place for your son or daughter.

12 questions to ask when visiting a childcare facility

  1. What is the initial smell when you enter the building?
  2. Does the environment feel cheerful and welcoming?
  3. Are there any environmental health or safety concerns?
  4. What sounds do you hear as you walk through the facility?
  5. Do staff members interact with children in a warm, positive manner?
  6. Does the center director engage with staff?
  7. How do staff members interact with you during your visit?
  8. Do the children in the classrooms appear to be stimulated and engaged?
  9. Can you envision your child in the classroom interacting with teachers and playing with peers?
  10. Can you picture walking into that building every morning and every evening with a strong sense of safety and confidence?
  11. Ask about procedures to protect the children from COVID (children under age 3 should not wear masks)
  12. Ask about how they are protecting the teachers from COVID?

Trust Your Instincts

Of course, you’ll have questions that you want to ask the center director, but if you are able to respond positively to the questions above, you may have found childcare that meets your child’s needs. Alternatively, if one of your answers brings up a sense of concern or worry, you may need to ask additional questions, conduct further research, and look at other childcare options. Trust your instincts. The right childcare provider will make this transition to childcare much easier you and your child.

Ultimately, the childcare provider you choose should make you and your child feel safe. Once safety is established, you can find a facility that provides the education for your child to have the best possible start during these critical learning years.

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Ways To Get Your Child To Stop Using A Pacifier

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Tips to Get Your Child To Stop Using A Pacifier

  • Limit the time you allow your child to use a pacifier.
  • Use it only for sleep time and comfort until about 12 months old and then plan to give it up.
  • Never use punishment or humiliation to force your child to give up using a pacifier.
  • Involve your child in the decision to stop using it by giving him the choice of throwing it away, putting it away or leaving it under the pillow for the ‘tooth fairy’.
  • Start a reward chart to mark your child’s progress.
  • Praise your child when your child has given up the pacifier and tell her you are proud that she is growing up.
  • Allow your child to express his feelings and if your child is upset or angry, give him special cuddles to help him cope.
  • If your child asks for the pacifier again (and she probably will), don’t give in. Remind her that the pacifier is gone and that she is grown up now.
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Child Development: 3 – 6-Month-Old Milestones

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Child Development Guide for 3-6 Months

Babies develop at their own pace, so it’s impossible to tell exactly when your child will learn a given skill. The developmental steps listed below will give you a general idea of the changes you can expect, but don’t be alarmed if your own baby’s development is not exactly as listed.

Social and Emotional

  • Begins to display a social smile
  • Enjoys playing with others and may cry when playing stops
  • Expressive and communicates more with face and body
  • Imitates some movements and facial expressions

Movement

  • Raises head and chest when lying on stomach
  • Supports upper body with arms when lying on stomach
  • Stretches legs out and kicks when lying on stomach or back
  • Opens and closes hands
  • Pushes down on legs when feet are placed on a firm surface
  • Brings hand to mouth
  • Takes swipes at dangling objects with hands
  • Grasps and shakes hand toys

Vision

  • Watches faces closely
  • Follows moving objects
  • Recognizes familiar objects and people at a distance
  • Starts using hands and eyes in coordination

Hearing and Speech

  • Smiles at the sound of your voice
  • Begins to babble
  • Begins to imitate some sounds
  • Turns head toward a sound

Developmental Health Watch

Alert your child’s doctor or nurse if your child displays any
of the following signs of possible developmental delay for
this age range.

  • Does not seem to respond to loud noises
  • Does not notice hands by 2 months
  • Does not follow moving objects with eyes by 2 to 3 months
  • Does not grasp and hold objects by 3 months
  • Does not smile at people by 3 months
  • Cannot support head well by 3 months
  • Does not reach for and grasp toys by 3 to 4 months
  • Does not babble by 3 to 4 months
  • Does not bring objects to mouth by 4 months
  • Begins babbling, but does not try to imitate any of your sounds by 4 months
  • Does not push down with legs when feet are placed on a firm surface by 4 months
  • Has trouble moving one or both eyes in all directions
  • Crosses eyes most of the time (occasional crossing of the eyes is normal in these first months)
  • Does not pay attention to new faces, or seems very frightened by new faces or surroundings

Source: CDC

Learn More about baby development:  Does your Baby Cry too Much?

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Baby Shower Games For Your Special Baby Shower

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Baby Shower Games For Your Special Baby Shower

So you’re holding a baby shower? Then you will need baby shower games to keep the guests entertained. While the baby shower is a good time to pamper the mom-to-be and make her feel very special there are also a number of guests that need to be kept happy for the duration of the event. Our focus here is on baby shower games, since these are always the most memorable part of any baby shower.

Games: Silly and Entertaining

Baby shower games can be both silly and entertaining by overall they should be plain old fun. Some are intended to embarrass the mom-to-be, but others can really be fun and may even teach the guests something. The promise of a prize, even something token like, always adds to the enjoyment too.

Games can be a great way to get guests to mingle at a shower especially if they don’t know each other and it is also a great ice breaker. Here are some ideas for choosing the right baby shower games:

In the planning stages of the baby shower, be sure to discuss potential game ideas with the mom-to-be. She may have some definite dislikes when it comes to baby shower games, and since it’s her day, you want to be sure to plan something she’ll enjoy and be very comfortable with.

Planning An Icebreaker Games

Plan the first baby shower game for early in the party because it can make for a great icebreaker, so try to schedule it for just after everyone arrives but just before the main food courses and gift opening.

Pick a game that is connected to your theme.

Whatever your decorating and food plans, you can tie it all together with a well-chosen game in the same theme.

Prepare in advance.

If your game requires writing, be sure you’ve gathered up enough pens and pencils beforehand. And the same thing goes for other objects: have it all ready to go so guests don’t have to wait.

Choose creative but inexpensive prizes as token items for guests.

The fun of the game should be in the playing, but it’s nice to have a prize and enters a little competitive spirit.

Take pictures during the baby shower game. They make great additions to a mom’s scrapbook and as a long term keepsake for the baby.

Choose Easy Baby Shower Games.

Games should be easy to explain and easy to play. Anything confusing or difficult takes all the fun out of it and people get bored before the game even begins.

So now that you know how to plan for the shower games, here are some of the more popular shower games for you to incorporate into your event:

Guessing the Baby Food 

Remove the labels from a few jars of baby food after marking the lids by numbers. Make a list of the contents of each jar. Each person has to taste the food and try to guess what it is ? pear, potato, custard, beef etc. Let everyone write down the number from the jar and what they think is in it. The person with the most correct guesses wins the game!

The Tray Baby Shower Game 

Place a number of baby items on a tray. (Usually about 15-20). Slowly circle the room allowing each guest a chance to examine the items. Remove the tray from the room and see who can remember the most items on a paper in 2 minutes. Usually the items on the tray go to the expectant mom and the winner gets a small prize.

Guess the Girth 

Check with the guest of honor in advance on this one. All you need is a ball or two of string. Ask guests to cut a length of string that they think will stretch around the future mom’s belly. After everyone has had a turn, the mother-to-be measures and cuts a string that fits her belly. Compare her string to all the guests’ pieces of string. The person who was closest wins a small prize. This is a great icebreaker and always good for some laughs.

Baby Picture Match Game 

In advance, ask all the guests for pictures of themselves as babies. Assemble the photos on a pin up board and assign a number to each photo. At some point during the shower, pass out sheets of paper to the guests so they can match each baby to the appropriate grown-up. If the guests don’t know each other well, name tags can help the process. The person who gets the most correct answers wins.
 

More about baby shower step by step planning.

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Should I Call The Doctor If My Baby Has A Fever ?

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What to do if your baby has a fever

A rule of thumb for calling the doctor, is for infants under three months, the temperature should be above 100F, and if they are over three months, a temperature of over 101F.

Why do babies get fevers?

 Babies can get fevers for a variety of reasons, and understanding the whys, can help you determine if you should call your doctor.

On a warm day, and over-dressed baby, particularly an active or squirmy one, can become flushed and hot and cause their temperature to be up.

The first thing to do is remove some of the clothing, and place the child in a cool spot to rest or play quietly. Take their temperature again in 20-30 minutes, if there are no signs that their distress is increasing.

Sometimes just a very active play session in hot weather can make a toddler’s temperature go up, and the cure is the same: remove some clothes, and cool down by taking a break.

Most fevers are the result of a child’s body fighting off an infection of some sort. As white blood cells become active and mount a defense, their temperature will rise.

What symptoms to look for if a baby has a fever?

Other symptoms of an infection include coughing, excessive crying, restlessness, listlessness, lack of appetite, unwillingness to drink, diarrhea, and vomiting. But occasionally, fever is the only symptom, and many times, it does not seem to interfere with their activities or behavior.

A child with a fever, who has other symptoms of distress like vomiting, diarrhea, and excessive crying, may have an illness that requires medical attention.

Check your baby’s temperature, and call your pediatrician with the results, be prepared to give the doctor a list of the symptoms. It is best not to administer children’s fever medication such as Tylenol on your own. If your child becomes ill suddenly, the doctor may want to assess their condition without some of the symptoms being masked.

Recently a Respiratory Syncytial Virus (RSV) Infection is circulating. RSV usually causes of bronchiolitis (inflammation of the small airways in the lung) and pneumonia (infection of the lungs) in children 12 months or younger. RSV symptoms to look for include:

  • Runny nose
  • Decrease in appetite
  • Cough, which may progress to wheezing

In very young infants look for:

  • Irritability
  • Decreased activity
  • Decreased appetite
  • Apnea (pauses while breathing)

Fever may not always occur with RSV infections.

What can I do to reduce your baby’s fever?

You can sponge your baby off in the tub, with lukewarm water, running it over their whole body and head. If the doctor has asked that you call them back after a specified time lapse, be sure to follow through and do that and keep note of any changes in your baby’s condition.

Febrile Seizure Frightening Not Dangerous

By Dale Peterson, MD

A young couple recently related this story.  Their seemingly healthy toddler had been put to bed as usual.  An hour later they heard the child’s crib shaking and they ran to the nursery to investigate. They found him burning up with fever and in the midst of a convulsive episode.  They rushed him to an emergency room where tests were run and found to be normal.  The physician advised them that the seizure had been triggered by a viral infection and recommended that they follow up with their pediatrician or family physician.

Febrile seizures, which are also called febrile convulsions, usually occur between the ages of six months and five years.  They are one of the most common seizure types.  Up to four percent of children will have at least one febrile seizure before their sixth birthday. Approximately a third of those who have one episode will have additional febrile seizures.  The seizure episodes cease by five or six years of age.

Febrile seizures can be dramatic and frightening, but they are not dangerous.  Multiple episodes are no more harmful or significant than a single seizure.  They do not predispose to epilepsy later in life nor do they adversely affect intelligence or cause damage to the brain.

As the name implies, the seizure is associated with the presence of a fever. It has been my experience that the primary determining factor as to whether or not a seizure will occur is not the height of the fever, but the rate of rise in body temperature. Most cases occur as described above. A child is put to bed without any sign of illness. Later in the evening or during the night the parents are alerted by the sound of the infant thrashing about, at which time a high fever is present.

Many of the febrile seizures about which I have been consulted were caused by roseola, a viral infection that typically occurs between six months and three years of age.  It is characterized by a high fever that appears suddenly and lasts for several days.  As the fever subsides a rash usually appears that may fade after several hours or remain for several days.  The rash consists of small flat spots or patches that are not itchy or painful. A few spots may be raised.  The spots are pink or red and may be surrounded by a white ring.  The rash usually starts on the chest, back and abdomen and then spreads to the neck and arms. It may or may not appear on the legs and face.

While physicians are always anxious to do something, there are times when doing nothing is the best course.  Fever-reducing medications have been shown to be of no value in preventing febrile seizures. This may be because by the time a fever is recognized the danger has generally passed.

Thankfully, anticonvulsant medications, which from the 1970s through much of the 1990s were widely prescribed to infants and children who had experienced a febrile seizure, are no longer recommended. The drugs were ineffective when used intermittently (probably for the same reason that fever reducers are ineffective) and caused behavioral changes, weight disturbances, decreased learning capacity, and in some instances fatal reactions involving the liver and pancreas when taken on an ongoing basis. Spinal taps, which were once done routinely, are now rarely performed.

When a seizure occurs it is important to seek medical attention to determine whether it was due to fever or to a more serious condition.  If it is determined that it was a febrile seizure you can rest assured that your child will not suffer any adverse consequences as a result of having experienced it.